tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post1844671155825448461..comments2023-11-03T02:06:14.836-07:00Comments on according to kelly...: the truth about motherhood.kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08366217382075432901noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-92233545542733781062010-01-18T16:43:50.148-08:002010-01-18T16:43:50.148-08:00So refreshing to hear about someone else who didn&...So refreshing to hear about someone else who didn't love being pregnant. I certainly appreciated the miracle of the whole thing and getting a baby out of the deal made it entirely worthwhile, but being pregnant was so not fun for me (being nauseous and huge and unable to tie my shoes wasn't exactly enjoyable). Whenever women tell me how much they loved it, I always get a rather confused look on my face.<br /><br />But...to each her own. :)<br /><br />stephanie@metropolitanmama.netStephaniehttp://metropolitanmama.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-29277387117519577632009-07-28T11:44:19.266-07:002009-07-28T11:44:19.266-07:00I had to say something about the comment above min...I had to say something about the comment above mine from Anonymous. Everyone has different experiences with preganancy and in my book there is no wrong or right with breastfeeding or bottlefeeding. You have to do what works best for you and your family and what you feel is right for your baby. I just have to say that I breasfed both of my kids and they both started sleeping through the night at 10 weeks, so it's not just bottle fed babies that do that. I don't usually comment when i disagree with another commenter but, when I read that I wanted to say something. What one person does may not work the same for another, and it's OK. Sorry so long. <br /> Oh, and I wish someone would've told me about the whole incontinence thing...I couldn't laugh without wetting myself for weeks after my babies. :)G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13180198830890659209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-77049086925042662122009-07-28T11:37:40.372-07:002009-07-28T11:37:40.372-07:00I can relate to almost everything you said. I love...I can relate to almost everything you said. I love your quote from About a Boy! One thing no one ever told me was how emotional I would be right after the birth...I mean, over the absolute dumbest things,like losing something or just for nothing. crazy.G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13180198830890659209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-1840251594332365222009-07-15T21:26:09.802-07:002009-07-15T21:26:09.802-07:00I'm sorry much of you feel this way about moth...I'm sorry much of you feel this way about motherhood. As I would never proclaim myself to be a supermom, I strictly disagree about your truths to motherhood. My babies were sleeping all night long after 12 weeks of age. The truth or trick to motherhood is bottle feeding your new born baby so you will be rested to take on the day to day tasks of motherhood. I feel it is not fair for previous children or husbands to tollerate or put up with screaming babies or sleep deprived wives who can't do anything because they "have to nurse the baby" -- I believe that newborn babies that are fed formula take on routine sleeping habits and are very content. Do yourself, the new baby and your family a favor and try bottle feeding... this is the secret to a happy home! Get over the guilt (Breastfeeding)because there is no guilt when the family can function properly! <br /><br />BTW- Don't sleep your babies on their backs. It ruins the shape of their heads and trying to reshape them with a helmet is patheticAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-47784167908781622992009-07-14T17:18:28.662-07:002009-07-14T17:18:28.662-07:00Well said my friend, well said.
The truth shall se...Well said my friend, well said.<br />The truth shall set you free.<br />But seriously, if I knew all of this before I had children...I may have reconsidered.<br />Sometimes being in the dark is a good thing.<br />Happy Tuesday!Wendihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246980489171414678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-48427573031149343912009-07-13T20:52:07.650-07:002009-07-13T20:52:07.650-07:00I wish someone would have informed me about "...I wish someone would have informed me about "the hotdog bun" that accompanies giving birth to a child (not via c-section)! Ouch for months!Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01907173122525528090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-38370695444290078232009-07-13T14:46:18.433-07:002009-07-13T14:46:18.433-07:00Oh' Kelly, I so thank you and send you a big, ...Oh' Kelly, I so thank you and send you a big, big hug thru the computer. WOWZA! You have said everything I felt during MY pregnancy 1 year ago. You are a brave woman for having another one, I wont...I dont miss the 3 month sleep deprivation, Hemmorhoids, oh' yea, and looking like I never shower. Uh' no, not for me...ever!! So many thanks for letting me knwo that I am not the only one! Thank you, thank you!!!Aracelinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-36077723764535855782009-07-13T13:13:04.344-07:002009-07-13T13:13:04.344-07:00No one told me....how harshly stay-at-home moms ju...No one told me....how harshly stay-at-home moms judge working moms and vice virsa. we all need to be nicer, more supportive and less judgemental.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-50491803499271542602009-07-13T10:02:52.301-07:002009-07-13T10:02:52.301-07:00Hi Kelly,
I love your blog and can't wait for ...Hi Kelly,<br />I love your blog and can't wait for the swap. I gave you an award today on my blog.Melissa Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06126713871312651098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-79080539999900010202009-07-12T23:25:07.898-07:002009-07-12T23:25:07.898-07:00I would literally cross my legs when blowing my no...I would literally cross my legs when blowing my nose or sneezing... seriously! After one baby the leaking problem is really bad. And the doctor said it gets worse with each one! Oh the joys!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-52656952004889858922009-07-12T18:33:52.066-07:002009-07-12T18:33:52.066-07:00Thanks again for this post... after thinking about...Thanks again for this post... after thinking about it some more, I decided to do a whole post about it on my blog (panamenos.blogspot.com)... it was very thought provoking.<br /><br />and thanks for everyone else's comment...even though it is sometimes lonely as a mom, we're really all in this together.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16355063651615804502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-21207211532854084202009-07-12T15:50:10.464-07:002009-07-12T15:50:10.464-07:00Love your post I'm so glad someone spoke up :)...Love your post I'm so glad someone spoke up :)Im a stay at home Mom and love every minute of it, there were(are) definitely times when i'm thinking what am I doing?? Then my 4 y/o giggles over something so simple and i just tumble head over heels in Love all over again. God Bless all stay at home MOMS we are never alone!!!!!Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11092452794911433086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-91126673451484057632009-07-11T22:11:42.078-07:002009-07-11T22:11:42.078-07:00Hmmm... what I didn't know was how you could f...Hmmm... what I didn't know was how you could feel like strangling a child (but of course you don't) one minute and like hugging them the next. ... I never guessed that my kids would be able to make me so frustrated or so happy.<br /><br />I didn't realize how hard it would be to not compare...my own kids with each other, my kids with other kids their ages, myself with other moms. It's not productive and I don't mean to do it, but it happens anyway.<br /><br />I also didn't realize that I would be helped so often by others...strangers and friends alike. I don't think I seem incompetent, I think I usually do a pretty good job of handling 3 kids, but so often friends or strangers have offered help without me asking. Watching my kids while I work when my babysitter is sick, helping me unload groceries into my car at the store while I got the kids in the car, etc. I have been brought to tears by the kindness of others on many ocassions, especially when my 2nd had open heart surgery.<br /><br />I, unlike many others, would never have guessed how much I would love being pregnant. (I really do!) Or that having a baby naturally would literally change my whole perception of myself and what I can do.<br /><br />Or that, at the end of the day, we all do the best we can and that we need to let that be good enough. But that I would often wonder if it really was.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16355063651615804502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-1659380860988187082009-07-10T15:09:30.328-07:002009-07-10T15:09:30.328-07:00this is a great post. i wish i would have seen tha...this is a great post. i wish i would have seen that oprah too! some thing nobody told me-<br /><br /> the contractions after you have baby while breastfeeding! they got worse with each child. seriously worse than contractions during delivery.<br /><br /> i had my third boy 10 months ago and i still have only taken all three out only a handful of times. it just doesn't work...ever. i always think it will be ok to run into walmart for 15 minutes- wrong. every time i leave in tears.<br /><br />how bummed out you get over little things. i think you hit it spot on when you said that you can't do everything. we as moms think we need to keep house, have hobbies, be dressed cute, be skinny, workout, have smart/ well behaved/ kids who are constantly doing new things. and guess what? we don't! our moms didn't go out and play after their kids were born, they didn't work out and look perfect. they stayed home with their kids because they new it was and is hell to take a bunch of young kids most places! the best thing my mom told me after my baby was born was to let some things go. i chose yardwork. i simply can not do it all and that's ok!the mama monsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10439917934594243643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-14508060182579495822009-07-10T12:37:51.800-07:002009-07-10T12:37:51.800-07:00Great Post!! When my 2 year old was born I just kn...Great Post!! When my 2 year old was born I just knew my husband would be "hands on" - not so much. I think he was scared he would hurt the baby. So when I told my girlfriends he was not a "baby dad" all of them quickly said - oh we could have told you that either were our husbands...HELLO a little heads up would have been good. Don't get me wrong there are A LOT of husbands that love the baby stage...I just wish I knew that was a option.Sunshine Paperiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10814982908927239175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-50198183463952714302009-07-10T10:49:17.470-07:002009-07-10T10:49:17.470-07:00Great list! 1. No one told me that cocoa butter d...Great list! 1. No one told me that cocoa butter doesn't necessarily guarantee you won't get stretch marks [sometimes genetics are just too darn strong!]. 2. No one told me that I'd still look pregnant after delivery. 3. No one told me that the whole "baby" part gets easier with each additional child [it's meeting the needs of the older ones in addition to the little bundle that's challenging].Patricia Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16457248759136322554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-36301714875194880692009-07-10T08:47:03.748-07:002009-07-10T08:47:03.748-07:00Your post comes at a great time for me as I am abo...Your post comes at a great time for me as I am about to have my 3rd, I am a working mom of 2 right now an I find myself sometimes at my wits end. My older 2 are 5 and 7 and I am very worried that having a new baby in the house will totally throw things into a huge tailspin. <br /><br />I am not enjoying being pregnant this time around and I selfishly think it is due to the fact that I was in the best shape of my life before I got pregnant and was running nearly 20 miles a week. The thought of trying to get back to that seems daunting to me.Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14095593176398409401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-5150535994768155162009-07-10T06:30:07.036-07:002009-07-10T06:30:07.036-07:00I have to say that I hated being in the hospital w...I have to say that I hated being in the hospital with a passion - people coming in at all hours to check me and the baby meant we NEVER slept. I didn't have a problem with being overwhelmed and didn't call the nurse. I was glad to go. Things I wished I'd known:<br /><br />Newborn babies cry. A lot. Even without being colicky, they aren't always the sleeping angels you see in pictures. <br /><br />Slightly older babies STILL may not sleep. While it seems all my friends have babies that sleep through the night, mine still gets up 2-4x. Sleep training needed? Such is one of the hard baby parenting decisions.sbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13000312414687403825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-1920851791790889452009-07-10T06:20:29.075-07:002009-07-10T06:20:29.075-07:00No one told me it would last more than 18 yrs..mor...No one told me it would last more than 18 yrs..more than 20 or 25! My girls are 27, 23 & 20. The still run to mommy, borrow my stuff, ect. They are still are just as jealous of each other as when they were 3. By the way I have a 3 yr old son and they fight with him as tho they were all 4!<br />It never ends, no matter what.Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09311320805081897725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-52746935767892853362009-07-10T05:25:25.583-07:002009-07-10T05:25:25.583-07:00I just added a link to this on my sidebar.
Amen ...I just added a link to this on my sidebar. <br /><br />Amen to the lonely part. We go from being employees (or employers), co-workers, students to.....mommys. All alone in our messy houses.Natalie Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15581810849562301572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-52970617174748818262009-07-09T21:19:09.770-07:002009-07-09T21:19:09.770-07:00I agree with what somebody else said -- when you&#...I agree with what somebody else said -- when you're pregnant, people are very gracious and kind. Once you show up with a stroller, a baby, and gear in-tow, strangers almost run in the opposite direction. Only once in a while does somebody open a door for me when I'm out shopping and can use a little help. It's a rude awakening to suddenly be seen as a burden instead of "someone special." I hope that doesn't sound conceited....Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01792648847934893154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-80579583706939079142009-07-09T20:15:56.355-07:002009-07-09T20:15:56.355-07:00Wow! I completely loved reading your post and all ...Wow! I completely loved reading your post and all the comments. I feel so much better. I really should have my husband read it. We have one wild little girl who just turned 2. I know it was already mentioned but the total pain of recovering from a c-section. OUCH!!! it is completely indescribable. My husband had the listening end of the monitor with him for 2 weeks. and EVERY time. I really mean EVERY time I had to get up from bed, a chair anything he had to come find me and scoop me up from under my arms. when the baby cried and i didnt want to wake him i would roll off the bed in the most agonizing pain. all I'm saying is it's certainly not the easy way out. it is all worth it though. i almost forgot all about that and even the 14 hours a day of crying during colic. I would do it again in a heartbeat though. even when my daughter is having a "crabby day" she'll have atleast one moment where she says "Hi Mommy!" "Hug!" and it totally melts me. i did love her the second i laid eyes on her, but i will admit that i questioned that love, as well as my ability to mother her when we went through colic. i wouldn't change it for the world. she's the best thing in the whole world!Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18314414058997839892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-33792705115107223562009-07-09T19:57:39.928-07:002009-07-09T19:57:39.928-07:00this really was a great post, wish i had seen the ...this really was a great post, wish i had seen the oprah episode, since the tykes seem to be in charge of the tv!<br />anyways, with my 3rd baby coming up on his 1st birthday- i will say i am sooo overjoyed that nursing finally worked and isn't painful anymore. i am still nursing and going strong! <br />pregnant and afterwords does have its ups and downs, but kissing those tykes heads each night makes it all worth it in the end!<br />i will also say that i have become a little more laidback with the housework- you just don't really have a choice. thank goodness my husband told me- i would rather come home to a messy house and a happy family than a clean home and unhappy family!!!Tracihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011865956993396163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-28667397893569319922009-07-09T19:01:11.491-07:002009-07-09T19:01:11.491-07:00hang in there...they do grow up...and no one tells...hang in there...they do grow up...and no one tells you anything, they are afraid you'd never have kids...mama johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03338574002894042609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4867427324036295912.post-47260418355015438172009-07-09T17:49:36.224-07:002009-07-09T17:49:36.224-07:00I'm so glad I am not the only one that hated b...I'm so glad I am not the only one that hated being pregnant and never had that glow. It was just so uncomfortable and no one ever told me about the constant nasty discharge and all the other fun stuff that comes with being preggoThe Grahamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13272511228104497326noreply@blogger.com